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No one likes to be rejected.

This is especially true for women. One form of rejection is being dumped by the person whom you really love or are in a relationship with.

Being dumped is never fun. It can be the source of a great deal of pain, confusion, anger, and hurt.

A Long Time Ago

There was a time when women were the ones who did the vast majority of dumping. However, this certainly isn’t true anymore. Men, increasingly, are dumping women.

As a woman, who has been dumped, you may not fully understand the motives behind his actions. Men are not quite as complex as women, when it comes to these sorts of things.

This article was written to help you find some of the answers to the question of “why men dump women?”

Here Are The Top Three Reasons Why Men Dump Women

Lack of Communication

Communication is very important in every relationship. A lack of communication would definitely mean the end of a relationship. Hence, it is often cited as one of the top reasons of why men break up with the woman they are with.

Demanding and Controling

Another reason why women are dumped by men is because as time goes by, they become more and more demanding. and controling

Women, Western women in particular, have a tendency to try and control anything and everything about the relationship, sometimes even the man himself.

They often will try to set rules and limits on their male counterpart. Women often will give the men a hard time about:

• Traveling to do his occupation.
• Not guessing/anticipating the woman’s needs and wants.
• Talking, or even looking at other women.
• Having female friends and associates.
• His Values and Beliefs.
• Hanging out with his friends.
• What they watch on T.V.
• Working late.

Some women will also engage in passive aggressive behaviours (such as silence and similar paybacks) if any of the above conditions are not to their liking.

Some men will tolerate this type of behavior. However, the ones that finally get fed up with it, and end it, usually cite this as a reason why they broke up.

Being Too Reliant On Men

There are times when women become too clingy, needy, and reliant on their man. Its okay for a woman to play up the damsel in distress routine once in a while. In fact, most men enjoy playing the role of hero.

Everybody, (both men and women) get needy and clingy, however, it can be taken too far and becomes quite annoying if done on a regular basis.

There is a difference between being needy sometimes and total emmotional dependence.

Most men want a woman who is independent, and can make decisions on her own.

Some women insist that the man spend every free minute of every free day with her. It is healthy for people in a relationship to have lives outside the relationship.

If the woman makes the man the center of her life and becomes too obsessed, it usually will be too much for the man.

Indeed, it is not only women who hold the power to dump men because men also have that power. These reasons are by no means conclusive. There are many reasons why men dump women.

The best thing you can do if you were dumped by a man, is to re-claim your power and realize that you are a wonderful loving human being regardless.

The New Seniors

Today, more than ever, over sixty seniors are dating again.

As time continues to march forward, those over the age of sixty aren’t being left behind because 60 is not what it used to be a long time ago.

More seniors are keeping themselves in great shape, and advances in medicine and nutrition mean people are living longer and more healthy than ever. Senior citizens these days are more vital and vibrant than any of previous generations.

So what if you’re in the area of retirement age and you’re looking for a mate? Over sixty dating can be a lot of fun and a totally rewarding experience.

Relationship expert and Internet author Wendell K. Cribbs reminds us that no matter what our age, dating and relationships are important to a healthy mental attitude and a rewarding personal life.

We shouldn’t allow nervousness and fear to keep us from developing healthy intimate relationships despite our age. Many of the fears seniors face when it comes to over sixty dating are fears that simply exist in their own minds.

For people over sixty dating shouldn’t be something to be afraid of. explained. In fact, dating for seniors can be a very exciting and fun experience.

As we reach our senior years, many of the issues that face younger singles aren’t nearly as significant or don’t even exist at all.

Things like career, family, plans for children and the like simply aren’t as prominent. That means over sixty dating can be a lot more casual and a lot less restrictive with a lot less pressure. – Cribbs

Bob is a 66 year old retired office manager who enjoys the over sixty dating scene, but that wasn’t always the case for him.

I find dating at my age to be a lot more fun with a lot less pressure than when I was younger. Looking back on my life, I realize that I dated my wife exclusively for more than six years before we got married.

I remember that everything was just so serious for us at that time.

We had a great life together, and when she passed away, I felt like I may just hide in my apartment and never go out with anyone again.

That feeling lasted about six months, until some of my friends finally talked some sense into me. Then I just put aside all my fears and put myself out there. – Bob

Cribbs says Robert’s situation isn’t uncommon for those who are entering the over sixty dating scene for the first time.

Of course there is going to be a certain level of nervousness and trepidation when it comes to dating again.

Despite the fact that senior age people have a lot of life experience behind them, often they’ve spent literally dozens of years in a long-term relationship or marriage.

So seniors looking to re-establish a potential loving and fulfilling personal relationship shouldn’t be worried about entering the over sixty dating process.

No matter what your age, life is what you make of it.

Chemistry in relationships is not something that just happens. Plus you probably can’t create chemistry where none exists, but if that initial spark is there, there’s plenty you can do to fan the flames.

Understanding Love Chemistry

If you’ve never felt strong chemistry with another person, it can be hard to get an idea of what it is.

What most people call chemistry is a sense that the two of you are just meant to be together. You’re both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other.

While it might have something to do with looks and pheromones, most of it is mental. It comes from you and your love partner having similar beliefs, thought patterns, ideals, and maybe even habits and pet peeves.

Developing Rapport

Before you can build up any chemistry, you need to have a good rapport first. If you’ve only seen each other for one or two dates, that rapport may not quite be there yet.

To create it, look for a conversation topic you can really bond over. Just make sure it’s something pleasant and low-stress, though.

You might discover that you both love discussing ways to end the global financial crisis, but that subject won’t help your partner associate you with pleasure and fun.

Start Laughing

Laughter is not only fun, it also makes us feel at ease with another person. You don’t have to be a professional comedian. Even an attempt at humor in your own style can work. Just keep it clean and neutral so you don’t offend your date in the beginning.

How Adrenaline Helps

Studies have shown that couples who met in an exciting situation (whether pleasurable or not) tend to find each other more attractive, more so than couples who met under normal circumstances.

This is because the mind associates excitement with the person we’re with at the time, and mistakes it for physical attraction.

Make use of this by planning a date that will get the adrenaline pumping like a scary movie, a rollercoaster ride, or even whitewater rafting.

Drop The Masks

There is no chemistry in love relationships with people who don’t know who you realy are – The Real You.

Instead of keeping your opinions to yourself in hopes of hiding anything your partner might not like about you, why not share your thoughts and feelings about important issues. Sometimes just a single comment can make your date fall-hard for you.

However, just because not revealing who you really are is dishonesty by omission, you should still play your cards right by not revealing too much too soon (Telling All).

Chemistry in relationships could be mysterious and hard to control, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help it along a little. Make sure you start with a good rapport, throw in a little humor and excitement and you’ll be off to a good start.

Finally, you should remember that you can’t make a silk handkerchief out of a pigs ear. So don’t go bending yourself into a pretzel if it’s not working out.