Dating Odyssey

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This is a brief dating etiquette outline for men and women.

Be Yourself

When you date, you want the other person to get to know you, so you shouldn’t try and be someone that you are not. This means you should drop your masks and be yourself.

Pretending to be something that you are not will be wasting both your time and theirs.

If you drop your guard and be yourself, you’ll have much more fun and at the same time increase the chances that your date will have fun too.

If you find that your date does not like who you really are, maybe you should move on and keep dating until you catch-on somewhere.

Dress Nice

When you go out on a date you should look and dress nice. This will show the other person you care about yourself because you care about your appearance.

Be A Gentleman

Depending on the woman you are taking out you should also remember to open the car doors and all doors for your date.

Some women however like to open their own doors so let them. Some women also like to pay for their own drinks and meals, so let them.

If you are not going on a date with an independent woman, then you should open the doors, be on time when you pick her up, and be prepared to pay for the entire date.

Don’t take your date somewhere you can’t afford, and never find yourself asking your date for money to cover the bill.

Don’t Be A Detective

While you should ask questions and display genuine interest in the other person, you should craft your questions in such a way as to not make them feel like they are being interrogated.

It is common for people on a date to ask too many of the wrong kind of questions by digging around in areas that are none of their business.

So tread with caution with your questions, else you’ll scare them off.

Chemistry in relationships is not something that just happens. Plus you probably can’t create chemistry where none exists, but if that initial spark is there, there’s plenty you can do to fan the flames.

Understanding Love Chemistry

If you’ve never felt strong chemistry with another person, it can be hard to get an idea of what it is.

What most people call chemistry is a sense that the two of you are just meant to be together. You’re both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other.

While it might have something to do with looks and pheromones, most of it is mental. It comes from you and your love partner having similar beliefs, thought patterns, ideals, and maybe even habits and pet peeves.

Developing Rapport

Before you can build up any chemistry, you need to have a good rapport first. If you’ve only seen each other for one or two dates, that rapport may not quite be there yet.

To create it, look for a conversation topic you can really bond over. Just make sure it’s something pleasant and low-stress, though.

You might discover that you both love discussing ways to end the global financial crisis, but that subject won’t help your partner associate you with pleasure and fun.

Start Laughing

Laughter is not only fun, it also makes us feel at ease with another person. You don’t have to be a professional comedian. Even an attempt at humor in your own style can work. Just keep it clean and neutral so you don’t offend your date in the beginning.

How Adrenaline Helps

Studies have shown that couples who met in an exciting situation (whether pleasurable or not) tend to find each other more attractive, more so than couples who met under normal circumstances.

This is because the mind associates excitement with the person we’re with at the time, and mistakes it for physical attraction.

Make use of this by planning a date that will get the adrenaline pumping like a scary movie, a rollercoaster ride, or even whitewater rafting.

Drop The Masks

There is no chemistry in love relationships with people who don’t know who you realy are – The Real You.

Instead of keeping your opinions to yourself in hopes of hiding anything your partner might not like about you, why not share your thoughts and feelings about important issues. Sometimes just a single comment can make your date fall-hard for you.

However, just because not revealing who you really are is dishonesty by omission, you should still play your cards right by not revealing too much too soon (Telling All).

Chemistry in relationships could be mysterious and hard to control, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help it along a little. Make sure you start with a good rapport, throw in a little humor and excitement and you’ll be off to a good start.

Finally, you should remember that you can’t make a silk handkerchief out of a pigs ear. So don’t go bending yourself into a pretzel if it’s not working out.